" I had zero understanding of male sexuality and naively believed that the sudden interest had to do with how mature, sophisticated, and cool I was" I vividly remember thinking that at that age.
Maybe Smart Grrrl Feminism has finally come of age. I am of a different, older generation. Every generation has to navigate these same waters. That probably comes from not listening to our elders, or not asking the right questions of them. Being a man, I can tell you that when it comes to being a dumb teenager, both sexes are on equal footing. I thank God I had a father who would have kicked my butt up between my shoulders had I been the cause of any of the stunts that you had to experience as a young girl.
Those who hold the guiding reins of culture must carry the bulk of the blame for these bad experiences, and for why they may be getting worse. These powerful people were once held to a code of ethics, but the chic movements of the day, and ever increasing amoral philosophies have won out over ethics and morality.
A brave and nicely written essay. Thanks for sharing.
I never had to be told that men are stronger than women. It was obvious - if you look out the window and there is water falling from the sky it’s raining. No PHD required to figure it out. Men mostly do any required physical work - we are stronger, not better. Women mostly do the less physical chores as they are better adapted to these tasks. In my 53 yrs of marriage the best formula is when we both help each other. There is one over riding formula though “ Even when she is wrong - she’s right” PS This . seems to be the sentiment of the BCCNM - even when they are wrong ——-.
You will beat those f*u *kers Amy! When u do, I hope that the V Sun reports it. The NP and Rebel will for certain. I wish that the members of the union also get pissed about the waste of resources.
I just read your article. I hung with the same kind of crowd in the 1980s and 1990s and beyond. Many of my friends from back in the day still trumpet the Ally slogan of TWAW and don’t see eye to eye with me on the dangers this new self ID ideology has caused.
Suddenly I am labeled a fraud as if my existence in the scene was not real. Like I didn’t work at an underage night club that hosted indie bands, like I didn’t hang out in underground after hours clubs with all sorts of misfits of society. Like I didn’t fall in love with a drug dealer and drop acid every week. Like I never hung out at The Odyssey or ever got beat up on Davie Street for hanging with "the gays" and abused at school for looking like a "dyke." Like I never supported drag queens. Like I was never LGB or a bisexual that spent a good lot of time in lesbian bars with some of the most amazing women ever.
Nope, apparently I sold out that part of my life simply because I now want to protect my child from T ideology that I feel has gone too far. It fucking is loonie bins.
(Regarding your X comments: Yeah those "Chads and Chad Wannabes" are the worst transphobic assholes, they are the same shits that beat me up for being different in the 80-90s but now think they are champions for women. I see them clear as I did back then. They are the women abusers, that want women submissive to them, and are not supportive in any way, specially if it means you are being truthful about the male propensity for violence. The heart of why we have had segregation of the two sexes.)
Hi Amy, back again to say hi and wish you all the best.
Wow. So many angry childish comments from those who know that the reign of their nonsensical ideology is coming to an end and are terrified that there's nothing they can do about it except harass their betters. :)
You're such a a stupid cunt. You live in New West right? Best watch yourself. That community isn't a fan of disgusting bitches like you. Would be such a shame if something happened.
"I also didn’t much care about feminism or political messages: I just wanted a tribe to belong to."
Hahahaha ok so, it sounds like you were just a wannabe poser, never understood (or cared to) what punk or riot grrl movements are about, and instead made up your own definition based on your personal, extremely anecdotal experiences with one rural group for a few years in high school.
Like "It ironically promotes the sexist idea that the female fight for equality is about women needing to be the same as me"
No it doesn't? You didn't understand it then, and you clearly don't now. 😂
The author is writing about being a young teenager and the things she internalized from the culture. And your response is to dunk on her?? Hahaha- that 14 year old sure was stupid!
Hahahaha the fact that you *think* you know what punk is, is hilarious. You're not a punk, never were. Sounds like you were just a stupid kid who didn't know how to stand up for herself. Seems like not much has changed
Perhaps you should find a better hobby than being obsessed with trans people. But you won't. Because you're a filthy little grifter. We want nothing to do with you and yet you can't keep us outta your mouth 😂 who's the one that's really obsessed here Amy? The fee people taking a couple seconds to write a reply - or you, who spends her free time writing blogs about trans people, doing podcasts about trans people, tweeting about trans people - need I go on?
It takes about 30 seconds to write that reply. Id hardly say that's "all my free time" Neil. Amy does not make any positive contributions to this world. All she does is claim to not be transphobic while spewing transphobic hatred all over the internet. How is that an "actual contribution" 🤣
Clearly, you’re too dysfunctional and toxic to even recognize what a normal person looks like.
You’ve been at this for some time. You can’t help yourself, can you?
Seek psychiatric help. And when you do, for your sake, I hope you get a nurse as good at her job and as compassionate as Amy. Your life might actually get better? 🤷🏼♂️
Life doesn’t have to be as shitty as it must be for you to be this obsessed with someone you don’t really know anything about.
This is why no one in your real life likes you and you’re so unhappy 🤷🏼♂️. You know you can just stop anytime, right?
Instead of being an anonymous bridge troll (with an ugly soul), you could direct your energy in a way that contributes to the world instead of criticizing strangers and thinking it shows your moral virtue...
" I had zero understanding of male sexuality and naively believed that the sudden interest had to do with how mature, sophisticated, and cool I was" I vividly remember thinking that at that age.
This makes me happy for my trad Cath upbringing; I knew from a young age what the boys were really interested in.
My mom was told to always keep a rosary length between herself and a date.
Maybe Smart Grrrl Feminism has finally come of age. I am of a different, older generation. Every generation has to navigate these same waters. That probably comes from not listening to our elders, or not asking the right questions of them. Being a man, I can tell you that when it comes to being a dumb teenager, both sexes are on equal footing. I thank God I had a father who would have kicked my butt up between my shoulders had I been the cause of any of the stunts that you had to experience as a young girl.
Those who hold the guiding reins of culture must carry the bulk of the blame for these bad experiences, and for why they may be getting worse. These powerful people were once held to a code of ethics, but the chic movements of the day, and ever increasing amoral philosophies have won out over ethics and morality.
A brave and nicely written essay. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks so much for this thoughtful comment!
I never had to be told that men are stronger than women. It was obvious - if you look out the window and there is water falling from the sky it’s raining. No PHD required to figure it out. Men mostly do any required physical work - we are stronger, not better. Women mostly do the less physical chores as they are better adapted to these tasks. In my 53 yrs of marriage the best formula is when we both help each other. There is one over riding formula though “ Even when she is wrong - she’s right” PS This . seems to be the sentiment of the BCCNM - even when they are wrong ——-.
You will beat those f*u *kers Amy! When u do, I hope that the V Sun reports it. The NP and Rebel will for certain. I wish that the members of the union also get pissed about the waste of resources.
I just read your article. I hung with the same kind of crowd in the 1980s and 1990s and beyond. Many of my friends from back in the day still trumpet the Ally slogan of TWAW and don’t see eye to eye with me on the dangers this new self ID ideology has caused.
Suddenly I am labeled a fraud as if my existence in the scene was not real. Like I didn’t work at an underage night club that hosted indie bands, like I didn’t hang out in underground after hours clubs with all sorts of misfits of society. Like I didn’t fall in love with a drug dealer and drop acid every week. Like I never hung out at The Odyssey or ever got beat up on Davie Street for hanging with "the gays" and abused at school for looking like a "dyke." Like I never supported drag queens. Like I was never LGB or a bisexual that spent a good lot of time in lesbian bars with some of the most amazing women ever.
Nope, apparently I sold out that part of my life simply because I now want to protect my child from T ideology that I feel has gone too far. It fucking is loonie bins.
(Regarding your X comments: Yeah those "Chads and Chad Wannabes" are the worst transphobic assholes, they are the same shits that beat me up for being different in the 80-90s but now think they are champions for women. I see them clear as I did back then. They are the women abusers, that want women submissive to them, and are not supportive in any way, specially if it means you are being truthful about the male propensity for violence. The heart of why we have had segregation of the two sexes.)
Love your revised take on male/female differences!
Thank the lord I didn't remain stuck in a teenage understanding of sexual dimorphism for my entire life lol
Hi Amy, back again to say hi and wish you all the best.
Wow. So many angry childish comments from those who know that the reign of their nonsensical ideology is coming to an end and are terrified that there's nothing they can do about it except harass their betters. :)
You're such a a stupid cunt. You live in New West right? Best watch yourself. That community isn't a fan of disgusting bitches like you. Would be such a shame if something happened.
"I also didn’t much care about feminism or political messages: I just wanted a tribe to belong to."
Hahahaha ok so, it sounds like you were just a wannabe poser, never understood (or cared to) what punk or riot grrl movements are about, and instead made up your own definition based on your personal, extremely anecdotal experiences with one rural group for a few years in high school.
Like "It ironically promotes the sexist idea that the female fight for equality is about women needing to be the same as me"
No it doesn't? You didn't understand it then, and you clearly don't now. 😂
The author is writing about being a young teenager and the things she internalized from the culture. And your response is to dunk on her?? Hahaha- that 14 year old sure was stupid!
Healthy grown women don't behave like this.
Not a woman is my guess
Hahahaha the fact that you *think* you know what punk is, is hilarious. You're not a punk, never were. Sounds like you were just a stupid kid who didn't know how to stand up for herself. Seems like not much has changed
You need a better hobby than being obsessed with me.
Perhaps you should find a better hobby than being obsessed with trans people. But you won't. Because you're a filthy little grifter. We want nothing to do with you and yet you can't keep us outta your mouth 😂 who's the one that's really obsessed here Amy? The fee people taking a couple seconds to write a reply - or you, who spends her free time writing blogs about trans people, doing podcasts about trans people, tweeting about trans people - need I go on?
Sorry about your dick bro
I'm sure you are Amy. Now stop being a filthy transphobic cunt.
The one whose really obsessed is the one in her Substack comments
Nah, trolling transphobic trash bags is a pretty fun hobby tbh ☺️
How depressing and shitty is your life that you spend all your free time trolling people who make actual contributions to the world?
Get a life and let the adults talk, Alice 🙄.
It takes about 30 seconds to write that reply. Id hardly say that's "all my free time" Neil. Amy does not make any positive contributions to this world. All she does is claim to not be transphobic while spewing transphobic hatred all over the internet. How is that an "actual contribution" 🤣
You're extremely pathetic
Clearly, you’re too dysfunctional and toxic to even recognize what a normal person looks like.
You’ve been at this for some time. You can’t help yourself, can you?
Seek psychiatric help. And when you do, for your sake, I hope you get a nurse as good at her job and as compassionate as Amy. Your life might actually get better? 🤷🏼♂️
Life doesn’t have to be as shitty as it must be for you to be this obsessed with someone you don’t really know anything about.
If I ever got a transphobic nurse, I would report her to her licensing board for gross misconduct and failing to respect patients privacy and dignity.
But hmmm seems like that already happened, no?
Are you admitting to being the cowardly anonymous complainant?
Wouldn’t shock me. Don’t think everyone doesn’t notice what you’re doing.
This is why no one in your real life likes you and you’re so unhappy 🤷🏼♂️. You know you can just stop anytime, right?
Instead of being an anonymous bridge troll (with an ugly soul), you could direct your energy in a way that contributes to the world instead of criticizing strangers and thinking it shows your moral virtue...